Matthew 10:24-39
June
25, 2023
This is the end of the pep talk that
Jesus and His 12
Ed de Guzman
Jesus gives the disciples before he sends them out.
We heard some last week and we’ll
hear more next week.
I have
to admit that I swapped next week’s
readings
for this week’s readings.
This one
was just too appropriate for our
worship
today: the theme of the Gospel is Welcome.
Welcoming is a hard word to
explain.
We’ve talked about it a lot lately,
but if you asked me to define it,
I don’t know if I could.
“You know, not unwelcoming.”
The dictionary definition is
“to
greet someone in a glad or friendly way”
but like a lot of definitions, it
doesn’t quite get there.
Welcoming is a lot of unspoken
things together.
Basically, we know when we’ve felt
welcomed,
and we know when we haven’t.
When
someone’s face
lights up when we enter a room.
That can be welcoming.
When someone gives us a hug, that
can be welcoming.
And
when we come into a room,
and a group of people abruptly
stop talking.
Or when people look away and avert
their eyes.
Those things can be unwelcoming.
But
then again, sometimes a hug isn’t welcoming at all.
Sometimes those lit up faces can seem false.
In some
situations, silence when we enter is respectful
And
sometimes it’s more welcoming for someone to avert their eyes.
I’ve
been to parties where I knew lots of people
and have
felt like I was intruding on something.
And I
have been to parties where I knew no one,
and the people
there made me feel like I was their oldest friend.
I think we’ve all probably had experiences like that.
Welcoming
is more than just a few identifiable actions.
Welcoming is a feeling that we
have for one another
It’s conveyed in our actions, but
goes beyond our actions.
Really welcoming someone is for us
to make room
for another person in a
conversation, in a moment, or in our life.
Christ
Lutheran is a place of welcome.
We do a good job of welcoming new
people.
We try to make people feel at home.
There are things we could do
better,
and Christianity, in general,
could do a better
job of being welcoming.
Many
Christians churches have the best intentions to
welcome everyone and they believe
that they’re welcoming.
They say that they’re “friendly”
and “welcoming”
But lots of them are friendly to
the people they know,
but to strangers they are less
than welcoming.
When you walk in, you feel like
you’re interrupting a private party.
When I was on
Sabbatical about four years ago,
On Sundays that I was in town, I went to church at congregations
that my friends were pastors of, since I never
usually get to visit them.
I probably went to five different
churches,
and at four of them, the only
person that talked to me
was the pastor that I knew. The other people were all talking to their friends,
laughing, hugging one another.
I was sitting by myself.
Walking in and out unfettered by
any conversation.
That was not welcoming.
There was another
church I went to while I was on my sabbatical
I was visiting another city, it
was a large church, a very large church
and there were a lot of people who
talked to me and every person
that talked to me, asked me to
come back. It was noticeable to me.
And then when I told them that I
lived in another city and I couldn’t,
they dropped me and moved on. It
felt a little like a car salesperson
when you tell them you’re not
interested in buying.
That was not welcoming either.
And I was a pastor.
I knew my way around churches.
I was a straight, white woman
going to majority straight,
white churches. And those were still
going to be tough hurdles
to jump over to get me to feel
comfortable or at home.
Just imagine someone who isn’t at
home in a church, or
who isn’t straight, or isn’t white. Think of the hurdles they might
need to overcome just to get inside.
Letting people know they’re welcome
and then following that up with an
actual welcome can help.
Alternately, when I was in seminary, and I wasn’t otherwise
occupied on a
Sunday, I went to a Roman Catholic church
that was near the neighborhood
where the seminary was.
People talked to me, they were
genuinely interested in me.
When I told one person the first
time I was there
that I was going to the Lutheran
seminary,
they made sure to tell me that I
was always welcome to take
communion with them at this
church.
I really went only sporadically one Summer and several people
remembered my name and would ask me how things
were going.
That place was welcoming.
I cannot remember the priest or
anything that he said or did,
but I remember that congregation
fondly.
Real welcome
requires honesty.
To really welcome someone is to
genuinely
want to know them and to enjoy
their presence with you.
It’s not just about adding numbers
to the roster,
it’s about genuinely liking and
wanting others to be involved.
Welcoming requires
vulnerability too.
When we welcome, someone could
reject our welcome.
Someone could take advantage of
us.
To welcome someone in – to really
welcome them
into our churches and our lives –
means that we will allow them to
change the things
that we like, and to ultimately change us.
To welcome means to be open to change
Jesus
values the spirit of welcoming.
Jesus says, “Whoever welcomes you welcomes me,
and
whoever welcomes me welcomes the one who sent me.”
Jesus
is talking to the disciples about how other people
may or
may not welcome them.
But
he’s also teaching the disciples how to act towards others.
He’s
telling them to treat others how you would like to be treated.
Welcome is the first step to know others
the first
step to allow them into our space
to bring them
into our circle
to intertwine
them into our lives
and make the
stranger a part of our new families.
Brothers and
sisters in Christ.
Welcome
is the first step at the heart of the gospel.
How can we meet new people?
How can we help people? How can we
understand them?
How can we give them that cup of
cold water?
How can we tell them about Jesus?
Unless we first welcome them?
The religious
leaders at the time of Jesus and
lots of
religious leaders, now and over the years,
try to
make Christianity into something more complicated:
following
rules, repeating rituals, or following certain,
narrow definitions of purity.
But
true Christian spirituality is as simple as welcome.
About
being willing to open ourselves up and giving
someone
what they need, a cup of water on a hot day.
Everyone
can be a part of this.
Even the
least among us,
just a
simple cup of water is enough.
Not a
bathtub. Just a simple cup.
And Jesus
doesn’t tell us to make sure they really
need the
cup of water,
or if they’ve
led a good life thus far,
or to
ask whether they will use the cup of water
for good
things or not.
Jesus
says to give it, to share it.
No
questions asked.
Jesus’ way doesn’t
get much more complicated than that.
No
elaborate systems, no checked boxes,
no
obsessions with keeping every code or law.
Because one
small welcome can snowball into others
and eventually the world is a place of welcome,
and that
place of welcome becomes the Kingdom of God.
Bishop
Desmond Tutu,
The
bishop of South Africa during and after Apartheid,
gave
this in a sermon in Washington DC
in
November 2001, two months after 9-11.
He
said:
“God says, I
have a dream, that all of you - my children -
will realize that you belong in one family.
This is a family in which there are no outsiders; all are insiders.
All.
When Jesus spoke about his death, he said,
If I be lifted up, I will draw all - he didn’t say I will draw some.
He said, I will draw all –
black, white,
rich, poor, American, Iraqi,
Afghanistan, gay, lesbian, straight.
All belong in this family: Arafat, Sharon, George Bush, bin Laden.
And God says, I have no one except you to help me realize my dream.
Will you help me? says God. I have no
one except you.”
We
might dream about wealth, or romance,
or
fame, or grandkids, or security, or that next big trip.
But God
daydreams about us, reaching our hands out
to
someone new, someone different,
and
giving just a cup of cold water to them in God’s name.
God has no one but us.
God dreams
about us welcoming others
and
us being welcomed by them.
Until
we, all of us, share God’s welcome together.